Love this....

I am being a total copycat from Sulfa's page, but I loved this so much, I had to repost it on my blog for my few readers. In case you didn't see it previously, it pretty much hits the nail on the head in regards to the stupid things people say but should not say to those suffering from infertility.

So, what do you think people would say to you if you were paraplegic instead of infertile?

1. As soon as you buy a wheelchair, I bet you'll be able to walk again!

2. You can't use your legs? Boy, I wish I was paralyzed. I get so tired of walking, and if I were paralyzed I wouldn't have to walk anywhere!

3. My cousin was paralyzed but she started shaving her legs in the other direction and she could walk again. You should try that.

4. I guess God just didn't mean for you to be able to walk.

5. Oh, I know exactly how you feel, because I have an ingrown toenail.

6. Sorry, we don't cover treatment for paraplegia, because it's not a life-threatening illness.

7. So… when are *you* going to start walking?

8. Oh, I have just the opposite problem. I have to walk walk walk - everywhere I go!

9. But don't you *want* to walk?

10. You're just trying too hard. Relax and you'll be able to walk.

11. You're so lucky… think of the money you save on shoes.

12. I don't know why you're being so selfish. You should at least be happy that *I* can walk.

13. I hope you don't try those anti-paralysis drugs. They sometimes make people run too fast and they get hurt.

14. Look at those people hiking… doesn't that make you want to hike?

15. Just relax, you'll be walking in no time.

16. Oh do my legs hurt, I was walking and walking and going up and down the stairs all day.

17. I broke my leg skiing, and was on crutches for weeks, and was worried I'd have a permanent limp, but I'm 100% healed.

18. I'd ask you to be in my wedding party but the wheelchair will look out of place at the altar.

19. You're being selfish, not coming on the hike with us, and looking at all of my track & field trophies.

20. Don't complain, you get all the good parking places.

21. If you just lose weight your legs will work again.

22. If you would just have more sex, you could walk!

23. You don't know how to walk? What's wrong with you? Here let a real man show you how to walk!

24. You are just trying too hard to walk. Give up, and then you'll walk.

25. Here, touch my legs, then you'll walk!

26. Just take a vacation, and the stress-break will be sure to get you walking!

27. When *we* were young we only had to worry about having to walk too much.

28. And I bet a paraplegic going to a bookstore doesn't find books about paralysis stacked next to all the books on running…

So here's a little hint. If someone you know tells you that she's trying to get pregnant and it's taking longer than expected, DON'T tell her to just relax. Don't tell her to adopt and then surely she'll get pregnant with her own child. Don't tell her that God has a plan for her. Don't say, "At least it's fun trying!"

Scheduling sex with the person you love isn't fun. Getting vaginal ultrasounds every other day and intramuscular injections in your ass twice a day isn't fun. Finding out every single month that - yet again - it didn't work this month either is Just. Not. Fun.

DO tell her that you're sorry she's going through such pain/grief/frustration. Do tell her that you're glad she told you. Do tell her that, even if you don't bring it up (because you want to respect her privacy and understand that she might not feel like talking about it sometimes), that you're there for her if she ever wants to talk or vent. And DON'T feel that because she told you that it's okay for you to tell your other friends, children, co-workers, neighbors, cousins, mailman, whomever - unless she tells you that it's okay to do so. Your need to share news pales in comparison to her need to maintain a shred of privacy and dignity.

I think this should be mandatory reading for ALL!!!

Cream of the Crappy Day Crop: Part 2

Oh yes, my shittastic Monday continues.

The scene: the Subway by my house. I go here a lot, and several of the women I know personally. They lovingly call me “Mrs. Veggie” because I am a vegetarian and one of their only customers who are, so they know my sandwich by heart. I travel a good bit, as some of you know, and to eat healthy, Mr. jme and I find those most convenient since we are both too tired to cook most nights.

I walk in to Subway Monday evening after work, and some of the ladies I know are working, but the woman who actually makes my sandwich on this day I do not know.

I order my usual: 2 foot long veggies (1 for me, one for Mr. jme) on Monterey Cheddar with Buffalo sauce, and we are all the way to putting veggies on the sandwiches.

Sandwich Artist: “Do you ever cook?”

Jme: “Excuse me?”

Sandwich Artist: “Do you ever cook? You’re in here a lot.”

Jme: “Well, I work 50 hours a week, travel out of town every other week for my job, so no, cooking is not high on my priority list.”

At this point, one of the ladies I know starts telling this broad the history behind me coming to them, and how they know me as Mrs. Veggie, and one day, my husband came in, and they immediately knew he was Mr. Veggie once he ordered…..

Sandwich Artist: “Oh, hold up. ::judgingly looks me up and down:: You’re married?!?!?!?!? And you don’t cook none for yo husband????? I bet you don’t got no kids neither.”

Jme: ::fuming at this point:: Yes, I am married. No, I do not have any children. Anymore personal questions you want to throw out there? Or can I go ahead and check out?”

At this point, my friends who do work there nudged the woman to STFU, which she finally backed off, and made the comment that she would not ask my business anymore. I am not giving them the chance- as of right now, I am not going back there. I don’t need that shit. Especially from a woman who old enough to be my mother, and is stupid enough to only be able to be a sandwich artist for a career at this point in her life. Plus, maybe on another day, I would have reacted differently, but on that day, when my own mother had turned her back on me, it was too much for me to hold back.

She has probably had more kids than she ever wants, and from the looks of her gold teeth, probably started popping them out at the ripe old age of 14. So is the way of the world.